reminder that if we’re in a mutual and you’re under the age of 18 and find it creepy or weird that i’m following you back as an adult then let me know and i’ll unfollow and it won’t need to be a big deal at all… like, please put your own safety and wellbeing first
Honestly if there’s any reason you feel uncomfortable having me follow you, tell me. I will respect your decisions.
A tag people use to emphasize their autism, trying to claim they’re the genuine article and not self-diagnosed, in order to claim that somehow they have the authority to speak on behalf of all autistic people. That’s my impression of it, anyway, and it’s wholly unnecessary either way.
Actually one, most people in the actuallyautistic tag support informed self diagnosis, and despite the fact that I am self diagnosed I have been accepted into the community there. Secondly, most people in the tag are posting to speak to other autistic people not over them, and to get away from harmfull stuff such as autism speaks and Allistic siblings.
Someone very nicely pointed out to me that I should have included sensual attraction in this graphic I made earlier. I’ve copy-pasta’d some of the more important text from that graphic although you should still read the other text too cause it’s still relevant!
Firstly, the definitions on the graphic above are very very very very bare-bones, and it’s important to say that different people experience the different kinds of attraction in different ways, and also there are probably more kinds of attraction, but I believe these are the main ones and the most important to differentiate between.
Secondly, it’s also important to note that each person has their own limits and lines drawn between the different kinds of attraction. To some people, touching would be a reaction to aesthetic attraction; to others, it may be a romantic act; to others, sexual. Some people view kissing as sexual and others view it as romantic. Everyone, ace or allo, has their own borders and their own fences in between these different kinds of attraction and some don’t have any fences in between them at all, and just let them run around wild together.
The first reaction I usually get when I explain the difference between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction is something along the lines of “but no one looks at someone and just wants to have sex with them right away! everyone needs to get to know them first!” This argument is also a big part of demisexual erasure. Which is why I think it’s important to really differentiate between these types of attraction. And just because these three types of attraction go together for some doesn’t mean they go together for all.
Again, and especially with the inclusion of sensual attraction, it’s important for me to point out that not everyone has the same standards for each type of attraction. What is included in sensual for some may be included in sexual for others. Asexual people can be sensually attracted to people and desire physical intimacy that doesn’t include sexual intercourse, in fact, many do. And I feel the need to point this out often and firmly because there are people in the asexual community invalidating EACH OTHER because few people seem to understand that not only is asexuality a spectrum, everyone exists on their own individual spectrum.
Gonna add some info on platonic attraction as well, because I feel like it’s really important for aromantics our there (like meeee):
Attraction associated with the desire to be one’s friend or have a platonic relationship with someone, meaning you feel committed to be with your partner as if you were in a romantic relationship, but without romantic feelings involved.
This overlaps with sensual attraction and aesthetic attraction, because your limits for what you define as “plantonic” touching/sensuality/attraction will differentiate from person to person, and from relationship to relationship.
Generally, a platonic relationship is defined as two people being more than friends.
Feeling platonically attracted to someone is called a squish!
I really hope this was helpful, but if I made any errors, feel free to change them or let me know!
I feel that procreative attraction should also be included. Its attraction to have offspring with someone. I find it important because it’s the only type of attraction I experience.
Guys the petition to recognize Fibromyalgia as a disability ends this month and it needs 97.5 K signatures still please sign this petition its extremely important. Fibromyalgia is ‘a common syndrome in which a person has long-term, body-wide pain and tenderness in the joints, muscles, tendons, and other soft tissues. Fibromyalgia has also been linked to fatigue, sleep problems, headaches, depression, and anxiety'